Okay, people, I just need to make one thing clear: I really don’t give a shit what ANY of you all think about me, okay? Your opinion of me means nothing. I JUST DON’T CARE. Remember that. Whatever you think of me is totally irrelevant and doesn’t matter at all. Keep this in mind at all times. It is very important to me that you understand how little your opinion of me matters. So next time you think about me, read something from me, or see a picture of me, I want you to think, “Hey, there’s that guy who doesn’t give a shit what I think about him!” (Because your opinion means nothing to me.) Got it? Good. ‘Nuff said. I’m done. Capisce. End of story. Hope you got all that. Read it all over again if you didn’t. Not that it matters to me…
I’ve long imagined that something along the lines of the above rant would make for a funny intro to a standup comedy routine.
What’s not so funny, however, is how many people actually try to push this sort of impression without realizing how ridiculous they come off in doing so.
In case you haven’t noticed: Those who most eagerly proclaim how much they don’t care what others think of them are actually the ones who care the most.
And if you get to know them a bit, you’ll often find them to be some of the most depressed and socially anxious people out there. That’s what happens when you live a lie.
There Is A Way Out
You probably know how easy it is to get sidetracked when someone assails you or something you firmly believe in.
Most people have this problem to some degree, but few ever seem to overcome it.
The solution isn’t to avoid all potential interactions with people who harbor strong feelings against you and what you stand for.
Anyone who ever amounts to anything will have to deal with such adversity on the regular.
Nor is it giving up on your ideals and passively agreeing with everyone for the sake of avoiding conflict.
There’s a difference between taking a stand on something and getting caught up in justifying your belief with people who have no interest in understanding your position in the first place.
You don’t have to give up your prestige and personal convictions to stop worrying about what others think.
The overarching trait that you’ll find in every person who can truly brush off every petty slight thrown his way is:
He Has Greater Priorities and Constantly Works Towards Accomplishing Them
That means setting worthwhile goals you have control over and getting serious about them.
You need to be working on something that will bring you success. It’s almost impossible to get caught up in petty affairs when you’re driven by something so much greater.
Only then will you understand the pettiness of all your drama and bickering.
People who obsess over the he-said/she-saids of every-day life only do so because they choose to live for nothing better.
Those who obsess over things they have no control over aren’t investing enough of their time and energy into what they can control.
It’s so easy to constantly dwell upon your disdain for someone you can’t stand. It’s so easy to remain heated up long after someone disrespects you or some person or ideology you identify with.
Perhaps people will start making fun of me and my “kooky” blog on social media as its popularity grows. I can either let my feelings be hurt by it, or I can be glad people are noticing me. I’ll choose the latter because the success of The Health Realist is the greater priority.
You Need to be Building Something
You have a message to get out or some useful knowledge to share. What better way to get your point across than through a blog? There’s a lot of money to be made in blogging if you do it right.
An Impressive Physique
There’s no reason being in good shape shouldn’t be one of your top priorities. You don’t need to lift heavy weights and eat a ridiculously expensive diet to do so. Every physical accomplishment, be it losing a few pounds or working up to some impressive feat of strength, makes the petty and uncontrollable things around you all the more irrelevant.
Perhaps you’re a skilled mechanic or crafstman and have the resources to build something worthwhile. Maybe you’ll use it, maybe you’ll sell it. Regardless, it’s certainly a better investment of your time than wasting away in front of the television.
If you want to be a skilled musician, then all you need is a working instrument and internet access. There are thousands of free instructional videos on YouTube taught by adept musicians for all styles and skill levels. Try replacing your Facebook time with watching those videos instead.
If you’re serious about being a great athlete then you’ll put extra time and effort into mastering whatever skills it takes to win.
A Stronger Faith
If you’re truly religious then your top priority should be to please God, not those who will judge you for obeying Him.
Make prayer a priority in your life so you don’t fall into the self-worship that ultimately leads to despair every time you fail.
“Grant me the gift of understanding, so that I may apprehend the divine mysteries and by contemplation of heavenly things detach my thoughts and affections from the vain things of this miserable world.”- St. Alphonsus Liguori
Inertia is the Root of All Pettiness!
Nobody who regularly partakes in any of the above endeavors lives a petty, depressing life. They don’t care what irrelevant people think about them because they have more important matters to attend.
If you spend all your time on Facebook or in front of the television, then maybe you deserve to be depressed. Find something truly worthwhile and productive to work towards and you won’t be anymore. You don’t need pills; you need purpose.
Make it happen.