In a previous post, I wrote about the debilitating health problems that a man brings upon himself when he masturbates. I provided resources containing hundreds of testimonies of men whose lives drastically improved after overcoming porn addiction.
I also provided one of several online scientific resources explaining the effects that porn and masturbation have upon a man’s physical and psychological well-being.
So, with all this talk about the devitalizing consequences of self-induced orgasm, one must ask:
Is It The Same When Having Sex With Another Person?
Well, let me start by saying that you’ll be far more sexually appealing to women if you don’t masturbate. Of the 194,000+ guys in the NoFap community, most of them took on the challenge primarily for that reason, and the vast majority of them seem to have gotten the results they hoped for, which is great.
Nonetheless, having regular orgasms and seminal emissions will have a debilitating effect upon your brain and nervous system, regardless of what causes them.
This is not to say that sexual intercourse isn’t worth engaging in, or that great things can’t come about from having it. I’m simply pointing out that some degree of physiological drainage will always follow the male orgasm.
So When Might it be Good to Abstain?
Note: For the sake of convenience and keeping this article strictly informative, I will not be sharing my opinions regarding issues of sexual morality such as marriage, sexual orientation, birth control, promiscuity etc. at this time.
So, moral and religious perspectives aside, there are two particular purposes for which you will benefit from abstaining from sexual intercourse.
The first is for strengthening your mental faculties, usually with the intent of creating or accomplishing something. This can last however long you wish, depending upon what you prioritize at the time.
The second involves a relatively short-term commitment that applies to athletes seeking to maximize their physical potential.
Sexual Abstinence for Mental Prowess
Most men with a sex drive are well aware of how strong of a force it can be, but not every man understands what other purposes this force can serve aside from sex.
It is certainly no coincidence that many of the most profound inventors, scientists, philosophers, and artists throughout history were lifelong virgins by choice. To name several of them:
- Nikola Tesla
- Isaac Newton
- Leonardo da Vinci
- Baruch Spinoza
- Immanuel Kant
- Ludwig van Beethoven
Napolean Hill wrote quite extensively on this topic in his best-selling book Think and Grow Rich:
When driven by this desire, men develop keenness of imagination, courage, will-power, persistence, and creative ability unknown to them at other times. So strong and impelling is the desire for sexual contact that men freely run the risk of life and reputation to indulge it. When harnessed, and redirected along other lines, this motivating force maintains all of its attributes of keenness of imagination, courage, etc., which may be used as powerful creative forces in literature, art, or in any other profession or calling, including, of course, the accumulation of riches.
Now, keep in mind you don’t have to be a lifelong celibate like Tesla or Newton in order harness your sexual energy and reap its benefits. If, when and for how long you do so is simply a matter of priorities.
If you want more high quality women in your life, perhaps some delayed gratification might be just what you need to put yourself on their map.
Pent-Up Aggression for Physical Activity
It has also been well-recorded that many great athletes dating even as far back as the ancient Olympians abstained from sexual intercourse for designated periods of time prior to a big event.
A sexually charged man will have more pent-up aggression to unleash upon whatever challenge lies before him. He will be motivated to pursue his goals because his body isn’t constantly telling him that he’s already accomplished what it’s meant to do. Many top-tier athletes (combatants in particular) today still honor and abide by this principle.
Calisthenics expert Paul Wade discusses this topic a bit in Convict Conditioning 2:
I know a lot about sexual frustration from years of being locked up in prison, and I’m convinced that this frustration forces you to expend energy in other ways. For a lot of red-blooded convicts, this built-up tension only finds release through hard, physical training. When you are sexually satisfied, you become incredibly relaxed, almost dopey. The last thing you want to do is set after set of pushups. But if you’re not getting any, your body becomes charged, wired, on edge– the perfect state for athletic activity.
Sex is one of the best things in life, so I’m certainly not telling you to become a monk or kick your girlfriend out of bed. But be aware of your sexual activity and how it relates to your strength levels. If you are going for personal records in your training, steer clear of sex a few nights before your big workout. You might be surprised by the results.
Seven days of abstinence should be enough to get that testosterone raging, according to this study:
I hope all this information proves helpful to you guys and doesn’t scare you off. It might be quite a paradigm shift for those of you who’ve long held the modern (and false) “get it on all the time or you’ll go crazy!” outlook on sex.
Just remember: The above quoted authors and I aren’t implying that all men of great impact don’t have sex.
Nor are we denying that mutual sexual intercourse can be a wonderful thing. Unlike masturbation, which is always worthless and harmful, sex can strengthen your bond with a loved one, build your confidence and, of course, create a new life. Oh, and in case you weren’t aware: It also feels a lot better.
We’re simply acknowledging that sexual energy is a powerful force which can serve great purposes outside of sex.
Use it wisely.